Fear: Self and Other

No -
no I will not say,
though they say it’s okay, that
some souls are somehow
less.

Yes -
I guess it may mean
my own mess I must clean while
facing, though fearing,
me.

~

I don’t usually veer off into ethics and uxory as a social issue, however, occasionally I come across enough things that make me wonder:

The bad news is if the man doesn’t a lot of dominance to begin with, and loses it in the course of the relationship, things can go very wrong- he may become the dreaded “kitchen bitch”. The content beta to despised kitchen bitch story is the story of much of American manhood.
~ Relationship Types and Dominance Levels, on Game for Omegas site, where the author also pointed out the term “kitchen bitch” was coined by NPR commentator and author Sarah Tsing Loh in this article.

[...] stands exposed as a floundering Man, not a panacea-laden Superman. Even his relationship with his wife has hurt his sex appeal: Uxorious men are never sexy for long.
~ Obama’s Vanishing Sex Appeal, The Daily Beast

Politics, along with a few other things, I avoid like the plague here – but what is it about any sort of deviance from the ‘alpha male normal’ stereotype that makes people so… denigrating? Why is their assumption so visceral?

With a little help from an SMTR discussion I realized it’s insecurity, social insecurity, and fear as motivation – an interior dynamic often identified in all sorts of bullying-like and prejudicial behavior.

In defense of fear I will say its design of making us pay attention to important things can be helpful. But it’s against how fear can make us treat others that I wrote this poem.