One Last Uxory Differential

(Sigh.)
Although I am attempting to leave the labeling dog lie regarding relationships, I recently came across some of my own words from some time ago and (perhaps unfortunately) can’t resist posting them (because I’m like an addict of differential curiosity) if for no other reason than to see me still circumnavigating the same circles.

However, I really think this idea may hit at an essential difference among some submissive men – their motivations being either more submissive with uxorious tendencies or more uxorious with submissive tendencies. I myself would then have submissive tendencies as a means for my uxorious motivation, desire and passion that simply wants to see my wife happy – ’submissive acts’ as means to express ‘uxorious motivation’.

For instance, I feel certain I am ‘foolishly fond’ and in the manner of ‘uxorious’, I am certain I have ‘submissive tendencies.’ However, I would say my internal compass is honed on her experience of pleasure and enjoyment, not on my experience of submissive feelings. […] Yet because I seek her happiness and she is the best arbiter of what makes her happy, I want and desire to follow her lead and decisions, which brings [me] back to having ‘submissive tendencies’.  [...] I have thought that perhaps the difference may simply be whether one is describing internal motivations and experiences or describing observable behaviors

Very effective I think now, though at the time I had ended with “but I can’t quite get the logic and labels to resolve.” I’m laughing.

Lastly, correspondingly, I think my wife’s ‘dominance’ (should I dare use the word) drives my ‘uxory’ only insomuch as her ‘dominance’ is a path for us both to enjoy her pleasure and happiness.