Passion or Disempowerment

I have heard the opinion that ‘submissive men’ find feeling disempowered erotic, and while on one hand I have disagreed with this somewhat, preferring the slightly different idea that ‘uxorious men’ find their partner’s empowerment erotic, yet I rather think in my last segment eroticized disempowerment suggests itself again.

 … it’s my desire she expect I could refuse her nothing, expect my passion addiction within the designs of her ‘garden hose‘ be such I couldn’t refuse her anything … I am conflating the symbol “tell me what you want me to do” with the symbol “tell me what to do” because I’m trying to tell her my passion for her is so strong that for me these two symbols might as well be the same thing…

And although the difference between “my disempowerment” and “her empowerment” seems akin to looking at the different sides of the same coin in a relationship, when you are one side of the coin I think it’s different – it’s more like the difference between “seeking my disempowerment” and “seeking her empowerment”.

Again this conundrum is reminiscent of the “for you is for me” dynamic (also  here and here), but I rather think the primary conscious purpose of the interior that drives one to action is the experientially important one. Thus again if one feels as if they are seeking their own disempowerment or their partner’s empowerment (or feels as if they are kinky or not kinky), then that is what is happening – until they feel differently.

I happen to (still) feel that (if anything) I my erotic truth is about passion, about experiencing my wife’s passion and desire, her wants and even her whims, however she happens to express them, however I may passionately get to participate in them.