Life Lessons
February 21, 2010
The very concept of a life lesson I think is based on a person’s pattern of numinous experience and where they consistently find meaning and significance. I already have some things I consider life lessons, but in addition it recently occured to me there’s a life lesson for me in learning to balance my interior space (i.e. my consistent interior valuation of interior mental space and philosophic pursuits over material and biologic progress) with helping her with her life lessons.
Life Lesson 1
I have worth,
I have value;
what I think
what I feel
what I believe
and my opinion
–even if no one knows them–
matter.
Life Lesson 2
I learn by loving,
I learn by doing,
and by doing all I can
to help her learn
her life lessons,
by doing what she wants
what she tells me,
I learn more of my life lessons.
Life Lesson 3
Balancing life lessons 1 and 2.
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