Gendered Sex and Love Symbols part 3
January 18, 2010
Gendered Sex and Love Symbols part 1
Gendered Sex and Love Symbols part 2
A man might gain more sex in the short term in the ‘tit for tat’ paradigm of sex bargaining, however he is still ostensibly, and stereotypically, looking for sex as love symbol in the long term. Thus it seems the love and romance paradigm has more benefits and seems better than the sex bargaining paradigm.
Yet, there are significant caveats with the female led paradigm line of thinking, not the least of which are that even I think I’m too biased in favor of the love and romance paradigm, that sex bargaining might work as a functional love symbol for some individuals, and last on the tip of the iceberg that these stereotypes are so wide and general it’s extremely likely most couples, female led or not, have varying degrees of both paradigms and rather than only two ways, there are an infinite number of ways.
Thus, as with what is or isn’t kinky, I don’t think there can be a conclusion about ‘female led paradigms’, other than to say what works for any couple is what works for them, and if it isn’t quite working as well as they’d like there are plenty of variables for them to try adjusting.
As far as the stereotypic gendered sex and love symbols becoming reasons for couples to turn to female led relationships, it seems there may be a correlation between those stereotypes and interior reasons but again the stereotypes are so wide it’s seems impossible to isolate a clear and common causal pattern.
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