Gendered Sex and Love Symbols part 2
January 17, 2010
Gendered Sex and Love Symbols part 1
Gendered Sex and Love Symbols part 3
When a couple already strained over sex symbols turns to a female led relationship, I wonder if a woman no longer uses sex as a tool to obtain comfort and security, or if she simply uses sex differently to obtain the same goal.
It seems to me if the couple has a ‘tit for tat’ paradigm of sex bargaining, wherein they exchange sex for relationship control, I would argue the woman continues using sex as a tool to gain the stereotypic comfort and stability a woman desires. On the other hand it seems if the relationship paradigm is one of romantic interest, the woman need not concern herself so much with sex-tool facet of capturing and holding the attentions and resources of a willing mate.
I also think in the love and romance model the woman becomes free to more singularly pursue sex as an interior symbol of her sexuality and sex drive rather than needfully continuing to share the sex symbol with its tool capacity.
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Tags: Compatibility, Desire, Female Led, Intimacy, Love, Love Symbol Negotiation, Power, Relationships, Romance, Sex and Sexuality, Sex Bargaining, Sorts of Uxory, Stereotypes, Symbol Accuracy, Symbol Adequacy, Symbols, Uxorious
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