Gender: Kinked, Bent, or Straightened

As an adult who recently discovered his erotic truth, I found very quickly I needed to question that truth in terms of an eroticized gender role switch. Since gender is a social construct, not an anatomical or biological difference (though there is no lack of theories connecting the social differences to biological differences), I realized I could be eroticizing the ‘taboo’ switching of a social role.

There are, of course, people who find switching gender roles (various dress-up, sissification, forced feminization, etc.) kinky and erotic, and well, hey, that’s okay. However, I think for me there’s too much disconnect between such sexuality and the idea of gender equality.  And whether it’s gender prejudice or discrimination, mixed-up gender fears and phobias, or even gender attraction and sexual desire, we each make our peace with gender equality, whether that peace is consciously made or not.

Personally, I do not believe there should be such well-defined gender roles, thus much of the arousal, taboo, guilt, humiliation etc. based on breaching such socially recognized gender roles just doesn’t have much personal value. Even the mere titillation of ‘bending’ gender a little bit bothers me because I don’t believe society should be so rigid as to easily see gender as being ‘bent’. Even ‘erotic cross-dressing’ (i.e. not transgendered psychology) seems to somehow fall afoul the idea that clothing makes the man, or the woman, or is somehow a significant difference between them.

This is not to say words and concepts like ‘emasculation’, ‘sissification’, or ‘feminization’, do not hold meaning for me; I certainly understand what people mean when discussing such ideas. I just look forward to the day when they generally have more historical value than contemporary. I don’t believe my erotic truth has much to do with society, or gender roles, or their switching, but ultimately, I can’t help but think perhaps gender in society needs no play, no drama, no ‘role’.